Lecture Outline for April 6, 2000
Jealousy


I. Social Comparison

• A. Definition
  
  
• B. Why
  1. Negative
  2. Relevant
  3. Similar
  
  
• C. Consequences
  1. Degrade the Other
  2. Negative Self-Image
  3. Depression
  4. Anxiety
  5. Motivation
  
  
  

II. Social Relations Jealousy

• A. Definition
  
  
• B. Causes
  
  1. Loneliness
  2. Uniqueness
  3. Monogamy
  4. Esteem
  5. Rules
  
  
• C. Correlates
  1. Self-Esteem
  2. Self-Esteem Dependence
  3. Locus of Control
  4. Sex
  
  
• D. Responses to Jealousy
  1. Express Yourself
  2. Express only negative feelings
  3. Denial and distancing
  4. Violence/Threats
  5. Surveillance
  6. Compensate
  7. Manipulation attempts
  8. Confront the rival
  
  

III. Coping with Jealousy

• A. Self
  1. Acknowledge your feelings, BUT
  2. Use considerable restraint
     -----delay your response
     -----soften your responses
  
  
• B. Other
  1. Reassure the person
  2. Identify expectations
  3. Specify behaviors
     -----bother you
     -----bother them
     
  4. Reduce the other person's dependency
  5. Jealousy contract
  
  

IV. Affairs

• A. Why?
  1. Increase Rewards
  2. Increase Self Rewards
  3. Test Relationship
  4. Getting Even
  5. Unplanned
     
  
  
• B. Coping with getting caught
  1. Justification
  2. Excuse
  3. Apology
     

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