Lecture Outline for April 20, 2000
Fighting


I. Types

• A. Substantive
  
• B. Procedural
  
• C. Affective
  
  

II. Unfair Fighting

• A. Exploitative
  
  1. Hitting below the Belt
  2. Morality
  3. Blaming the Other
  4. Comparison
  5. Indirect Fighting
  6. Overemotional
  7. Physical Abuse
  8. Hit & Run
  
  
• B. "Psyching" the Person Out
  
  1. Mind Reading
  2. Character Analysis
  3. Prediction Making
     
  
  
• C. Conversational
  
  1. Monologue
  2. Silence
  3. Contant Interruption
  4. Switching
     • a. topic
     • b. levels
     
     
• D. Extremeties
  1. Overkill
  2. Never Forget/Never Forgive
  3. Unrealistic Threats
  4. Irrelevant Weapons
  
  
• E. Crazy-Making
  
  
  1. Deny Obvious Feelings
  2. Being Intentionally Inconsistant
  3. Demand Something, get it, and then say you never wanted it
  4. Agree to Something, then deny you ever agreed to it
  5. Build up Hopes, then shatter them
  6. Follow the letter of the law, not the spirit of the law
  7. Psychologize
  8. Never Stop
  9. Ignore/Disconfirm
  
  

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