How You Can Help
Many students have never directly dealt with a suicidal person. When such a situation presents itself, they are likely to feel helpless and overwhelmed. The following guidelines are presented to help provide a sense of direction and facilitate the helping process.
Recognize the warning signals.
Listen, Listen, Listen. We often undervalue the power of active listening. Help them to hear themselves by rephrasing their words and feelings. For example, "In other words, you're feeling/saying . . . "
Be supportive. Show that you care. "I care about you." "You are important to me."
Avoid being judgmental or arguing about the moral issues regarding suicide.
Take every complaint or reference to suicide seriously.
Be direct when addressing suicidal intentions: Ask: "John, are you thinking about suicide?" If the person is suicidal, studies show that such a question can be a relief. He or she may actually welcome the chance to express painful feelings. If the person is not suicidal, you have expressed care and concern.
Evaluate the immediate risk. If the person is experiencing suicidal thoughts, check out the next three predictors of immediate risk:
- the presence of a suicide plan,
- possession of means for suicide, and
- a time schedule.
With the presence of each progressive predictor, the chances of immediate harm increase. Specifically ask: "Do you have a plan?" "Do you have the means (pills, a knife, or something else)?" "When do you plan to kill yourself?" Never leave a person alone who has secured a means for suicide. An added note: Protect yourself. If the person is armed, leave the premises and call the police.
Talk with others. This is extremely important! Do not allow yourself to be the only one helping a suicidal person. Recognize the limits of your expertise and responsibility. Share your concerns with appropriate staff members. Do not be bound by secrecy. An angry friend is better than a dead one.
Recommended Reading
Capuzzi, Dave and Golden, Larry. Preventing
Adolescent Suicide. Muncie, IN.: Accelerated Development, 1988.
Dunne, Edward, McIntosh, John and Dunne- Maxim, Karen. (Eds.). Suicide and Its Aftermath: Understanding and Counseling the Survivors. New York: W.W. Norton, 1987.
Linzer, Norman. Suicide: The Will To Live Vs.
The Will To Die. New York: Human Science Press, 1984.
Lord, Janice Harris. No Time For Good-byes:
Coping with Sorrow, Anger and Injustice After a Tragic Death. Ventura, Ca.: Path- finder Publishing, 1988.
Rosenthal, Howard. Not With My Life I Don't: Preventing Your Suicide and That of Others. Muncie, IN.: Accelerated Development, 1988.
Sources of Help at UT
- Counseling & Mental Health Center: 471-3515.
- Telephone Counseling: 471-CALL - 24 hrs./day, 7 days a week.
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